In Parshat Kedoshim we encounter a profound commandment, which has reverberating impact through out all our daily lives. The passuk states “kedoshim tihyu ki kadosh ani – you shall be holy, for I am holy (Leviticus 19:3). ”  the word Kedoshim, which has the Hebrew root word kadosh – usually translated as “holy.” However, the word has a more appropriate definition described by Rashi of separation or setting apart from immortality. The torah provides us a guide towards the psychological concept of self-actualization. This directive encapsulates a fundamental aspiration of Jewish life — the pursuit of holiness by setting ourselves apart from things that lead to impurity.

Self-actualization, a term popularized by psychologist Abraham Maslow, refers to the realization of one's talents, potential, and fulfillment of one's purpose. Maslow proposed that individuals have a hierarchy of needs, represented as a pyramid. At the base are physiological needs like food and shelter, followed by safety needs, then belongingness and love needs, esteem needs, and finally, self-actualization needs at the top. According to Maslow, self-actualization represents the realization of one's potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth, and peak experiences. This concept implies that once basic needs are met, individuals naturally strive for higher levels of fulfillment and self-realization. This psychological concept finds resonance within the Torah's directive of holiness through separation. The Torah doesn't simply command adherence to a set of rules but rather beckons individuals to aspire towards a higher state of being, a state of holiness.

The Rambam writes that this concept of separation to create holiness is not specific to any particular category of mitzvot but rather a guide that all of ones life should follow in the view of separating ourselves from overindulgence in the pursuit of self-actualizing. The Rambam teaches us that we must keep our morals and moderation in pursuit of all aspects of life. The Gemarah in Yevamot 20a tells us to ‘sanctify ourselves in what is permitted to us’ and transcend the material realm, aligning with the true values of the torah. With each choice we make, whether its foods to eat, words to speak, or actions to take – we are provided opportunities to self-actualize holiness in our lives. 

Tips for mental and spiritual self-actualization:

1. Simplify Your Life: Evaluate your possessions and commitments regularly, prioritizing those that truly contribute to your well-being and growth. Letting go of excess material clutter and unnecessary obligations creates space for deeper introspection and connection to what truly matters.
2. Engage in Self-Reflection: Set aside time regularly to reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and experiences. Journaling, contemplation, or talking with a trusted friend or mentor can help you gain insights into yourself, your values, and your purpose.
3. Nurture Your Curiosity: Stay open to learning and exploring through consistent inquisitiveness. Embrace uncertainty as an opportunity for discovery rather than a source of fear.

Parshat Kedoshim's call to holiness resonates deeply with the psychological concept of self-actualization. By urging individuals to strive towards spiritual and moral excellence, the Torah encourages them to embark on a journey of inner transformation, authentic living, communal engagement, and continuous growth. In embracing this journey, individuals not only fulfill their own potential but also contribute to the betterment of their communities and the world at large. As we engage with Parshat Kedoshim and its timeless teachings, may we heed the call to pursue holiness, recognizing it as the pathway to genuine fulfillment and self-actualization.