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The Cauliflower's Wisdom -- Some Thoughts from the Kitchen:
Author: Smadar Prager, Psychotherapy, CGP
March 24th, 2017

  I do not know about you, but I just love Hashgacha Pratit stories, and since this dam opened for me, I see them all around me, and they still excite me so much.

So here is a fresh one:
Yesterday, a lovely cauliflower captured my eye while shopping for Shabbat.
I thought I’ll make a whole baked cauliflower in the oven for Shabbat Kiddush Dinner. Taking the cauliflower out of the fridge today, I reconsidered: &ldq …
What I learned from Rebbitzen Jungries A'H
Author: Smadar Prager, Psychotherapy, CGP
August 25th, 2016

I had a very great Zechut (privilege) to know Rebbetzin Jungries personally. Not for very long, and not so close, but enough to feel like I lost my grandmother. 
I met her by chance. I know there're no coincidences, and all is orchestrated from above, but at the time it happened it felt totally random.
In the beginning of 2015, while sweating in physical therapy after a knee surgery, the back door opened, …
Tags: Rebbetzin Jungries, life lessons, life is a test
What I learned in 30 years of marriage
Author: Smadar Prager, Psychotherapy, CGP
July 15th, 2016

Last week, 7.7, we celebrated 30 years of marriage. These are some of the things I learned over the years: That HaShem loves me very much – He sent him to me.

That being stubborn is an advantage – holding and not letting go, insisting on the togetherness even when is though.

That to be lenient is required – it’s just not worth it to spoil the ‘us’ on account the personal.

Th …
Build yourself into it!
Author: Smadar Prager, Psychotherapy, CGP
May 3rd, 2016

While watching ‘Rehab Addict’ on HGTV, Mr. Chester Bushman, Nicole Curtis’s 90 year old grandfather, said this heartfelt sentence, "When you are building a home, you are building yourself into it, just like marriage!" I watched and thought to myself that there is no substitute to old age wisdom; that we have so much to learn from our elders and that there's so much unparalleled value of strength and support in keeping, maintaini …
Don't go to sleep angry!
Author: Smadar Prager, Psychotherapy, CGP
February 5th, 2016

In the house where I grow up, I didn’t get the chance to learn couplehood[1] first hand.   Being in awe from the fact that there are couples that not only live together after the age of 50, but actually really like each other, I asked my future mother in law an advice before our wedding, “How do you do that? How do you get to this fantastic achievement?” Her answer was short and decisive, “Never go to sleep if yo …
Three ways
Author: Smadar Prager, Psychotherapy, CGP
February 5th, 2016

There are three ways to respond when another lashes out at you, yelling and complaining. The first one is to stay quit and indifferent, and allow the other to explode with anger. The second one is to lash out right back at him/her. The third one is to calmly and pleasantly respond to the ‘what’ and not to the ‘how’. Meaning to the issue and not the way the issue is being presented (with yelling etc,). The first way makes t …
About Demons and Caves
Author: Smadar Prager, Psychotherapy, CGP
December 4th, 2015

Once upon a time there was a very enlightened and holy Buddhist  monk. He lived in an isolated cave, on a mountain side, and occupied his time only in prayers and reflections all day and all night.  And one day he returned to his cave only to find that it is full of sassy and ugly demons. They completely took over his cave, 
cooked and ate his food,
slept in his bed,
ripped apart his holy books,
dirtied everythi …
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